There are many reasons. And there are parents and grandparents out there who argue that things were never this bad when they were young. They may be correct. Perhaps they were never under the kind of pressure that today’s youth appear to be. But then again, specifically as parents, they could be feeling the pressure too.
So what can be done? While working through some of the possible reasons, do not, however, put off the suggestion of registering your troubled teenager for any one of the troubled youth programs available out there. Today, a majority of adolescent boys and girls and teenagers appear to be suffering from one form of anxiety or another. When under such strain, these young adults can tend towards irrational behavior, of one form or another.
Going through online reading matter presented by cultural and youth oriented non-governmental organizations, two salient points emerge. On the one hand, experts may be correct in suggesting that it would be difficult to pigeonhole or categorize young adults in accordance with their negative behavioral patterns. Nevertheless, and on the other hand, there appears to be consensus in the sense that instead of feeling wholly guilty and hopeless all of the time, just like the kids are, the troubled parents if you will, must grab the bull by the horns and take action.
This begins by acknowledging their own responsibility in coming around to their children’s irregular and unhappy behavior as well as the sometimes firm action that needs to be taken. This is tough on the kids. And it is tough on the parents as well. Folks, this is tough love. Sometimes it is better to present a façade of being cruel rather than kind. But on most occasions, this is never necessary. Enter troubled youth programs as one of a series of workable short to long term solutions.
On any day of the week, just like their mothers and fathers, young adults will have their fair share of stress and anxiety. But when mood levels and behavior and the circumstances that appear to lead towards it are not checked, anxiety levels shoot through the roof to the more extreme depression. Bear in mind that before you decide that your kid is mentally depressed, do not jump to conclusions. Only clinical psychologists and psychiatrists have the last word in determining whether children (and adults) of any age are clinically depressed, as they would put it.
Instead of forming reasonably healthy relationships with other boys and girls, the troubled ones have this tendency to take one of two options once they are confronted with that fork in the road. On the one hand, they isolate themselves and simply ‘go to their rooms’. Ah, if only that really were the convenient solution for ‘busy’ parents. And on the other hand, lonely and isolated and alienated, these kids are made to feel welcome amongst fringe or marginalized groups of society that are sometimes dangerous for the kids’ emotional and mental development, never mind physical health and wellbeing.